When I hear the term “Christian Family” the first thing that comes to mind is two parents and a couple of kids sitting around the living room reading their bible. Maybe they’re holding hands as the dad leads the family in prayer. They don’t watch much TV or listen to secular music. Maybe the mom homeschools. Every Sunday morning they get up, have a nice breakfast together then head off to church in the minivan. There is never any arguing and the kids sit perfectly quiet during the sermon, not fidgeting or playing on their Nintendo DS.
Yeah right….dream on.
There are three things in your life that are big influencing factors that you have absolutely no control over.
- Your childhood neighborhood
- Your elementary school
- Your family
Your childhood neighborhood and elementary school have a direct impact on your “first friends.” There were only so many kids to choose from. Either you fit in with the crowd and had a great experience or you were the odd one out and had a slightly (or more than slightly) traumatic experience. Even worse is your family. You didn’t get to pick you mother or father and all of their eccentricities. There wasn’t a collection of siblings to choose from. Nope, you got stuck with whatever God’s sense of humor was in the mood for at the time.
But the good news, our start in life does not have to control the rest of our life. As we come of age we can make a choice about where we live, where we go, and who we call family. Jesus sets the example for us in Matthew 12:46 – 50
“While Jesus was still talking to the crowd, his mother and brothers stood outside, wanting to speak to him. Someone told him, “Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you.” He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”
Our Christian family becomes whoever we choose it to be. We have the luxury of finding others who share our convictions and they can become your family. Don’t let a less-than-glorious start to life define you for an eternity. Start today building your new family….in Christ.